Friday, April 6, 2018

Reasons Why I Will Never Be A Mommy Blogger

I’m just going to say it. I will never be a mommy blogger, and I very rarely check out mom blogs. I have a lot of reasons why, but I’ll give you a little background on myself first.

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I went from having no kids to having three within one year -- yes, one year. To make a long story short, I had my son, and became pregnant with twins while on birth control that were born 4 days before his first birthday. Three kids -- one year.

For the last 14 years of my life, my whole world has revolved around kids and parenting. In 2013, I became a single parent after my divorce and was left doing it all on my own. It’s been a very stressful and rough road, but I’m trudging through, just like everyone else.

I’ve been through it all -- well, almost. I’ve been through the pregnancies, the c-sections, the shrieking newborns, the first words, the first steps, three kids in diapers at once, the first days of school, middle school drama, divorce with children...etc. 

We all have our own experiences when it comes to being pregnant and having babies, but that doesn’t mean that we are special or unique because of this. I do not mean to offend anyone who has had fertility issues with my next statement, but for the majority of people, reproducing is fairly easy to do, I mean, even teenagers do it. You haven’t performed any special feat by getting knocked up. I know that you are excited about it, but that doesn’t mean that everyone else out there wants to see your baby bump every single damned week or hear every single detail of the changes in your body -- anyone who has had a baby has experienced it themself.

It’s fine to share updates with your family and friends, but I know that my children are not some sort of unique prodigies that every human being in the world needs to study, nor do I think that they need to know every single milestone that my child has met, because, guess what? Their children most likely did the same exact things.

Of course you think your children are special and wonderful; you’re their parents, so you should think that. That doesn’t mean that everyone else feels the same way and wants to see or hear about how many times your kid peed in the potty or that they ate squash today. So what?

Just Because You Are A Parent Doesn’t Mean You Are An Expert

One thing I’ve noticed is that once a person has a child, they suddenly think they are an expert on parenting. The only experts are the professionals. There is not one single parenting style or handbook that we all need to follow. Kids have different personalities and learn differently. Just because something worked for your kid, doesn’t mean it will work for Crystal’s kid.

It’s fine to offer advice or input, but most likely, you are not an expert. My three kids are teenagers now and I’m not an expert. I just figure things out as I go.

There Is More To Me Than Just Being A Mother

There. I said it. I could easily run a mom blog after raising 3 kids so close in age for this many years. I’ve got enough stories to fill up 10 blogs. The thing is, I have other interests outside of my kids. My name isn't "mom". My whole world pretty much revolves around working and raising my kids. I do have other interests though. I enjoy other things. I do enjoy some “me” time (it just doesn’t happen very often). When 99% of my world revolves around my kids, I don’t want to read about strangers’ kids. I need a little bit of me time to read or write about other things that interest me. I’m more than just a mom and there is so much more that I want to share.

I post a lot of photos of my kids on my personal social media because I know that the majority of family and friends on there are interested, but I realize that strangers really aren’t going to care that much and having kids doesn’t make me an expert at parenting. I am knowledgeable and passionate about other subjects, and that’s what I want to write about and share with the world.

Sure, mom blogs or parenting blogs are great for talking amongst other parents for some advice, but you can do that in a group chat. I also forgot to mention how some parents have this way of thinking that their way is the only way and if you do or don’t do this or that, you are an idiot or a bad parent. No. There are a billion and one ways that you can discipline and teach children unless one way is straight abusive, then it isn’t wrong. I have been in mommy groups in the past where a lot of drama has gone on because one or two parents believed that their way is the only way and everyone else was wrong. I’m not dealing with anyone trying to act like they are right and I am wrong.

Everyone who has a kid suddenly thinks they need to start a mom blog. That's fine if that's your thing, but I've always been the type to think outside the box. It's fun out here.

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