Friday, December 1, 2017

Why Does Everyone Cheat?

Dating is difficult in this day and age. I think what makes it even more difficult and even scary is that people are so prone to cheat nowadays and I'm not sure why.

Back in the day, if you were married to someone, you were with them and only them. It seems that these days, marriage really is just a piece of paper and no one seems to take it seriously anymore. People don't respect each other anymore and they don't fight for one another. Why don't people fight for their relationship anymore?  For that matter, why BE in a relationship with someone if you don't respect and care for them enough to fight for the relationship?

Nope. When things get hard, instead of working on fixing the relationship, they decide to just find someone else to give them what they aren't getting -- temporarily. Instead of communicating with their significant other about problems in the relationship or working together on fixing these problems, everyone just chooses to jump into bed with someone else. Once the deed is done, they may feel guilty, maybe not, but by then it's too late. They can't take it back. They end up lying to their s.o. about where they were or what they were doing, and then more lies to cover up other lies and it turns into a big disaster. Once you cheat, it's usually the end of the relationship because eventually you will be found out and it's going to be a whole shit bag of drama, all because you couldn't keep your pants on.

What makes cheating so easy now? The internet and cell phones, that's what. It's so easy to find someone new online, and cell phones just make it that much easier. Even Facebook came out with a chat feature to hide secret messages. Why would you need to use that feature? To cheat, that's why! I mean, there's even a term for it now. A "side chick". People talk about a side chick like it's funny or normal to have one. No one seems to believe in being faithful to the one they are with. They are always searching for more instead of building a deeper and stronger relationship with the one they are with.

Everywhere I look it seems that I find more stories of people cheating, and it honestly makes me scared to date. I know there are honest men out there that don't cheat, but they seem to be so far and few between. People will look you right in the eye and lie to your face. They can promise you the world while talking to 3 other chicks on their phone. Do I have to have my guard up all the time and how can I start to trust someone? How can I let someone into my heart and mind knowing that they are likely to cheat as soon as the next pretty girl gives them some attention?

It's rare to find anyone who has been married for more than a few years these days. People are just so quick to give up and move on to the next person instead of following through with their wedding vows and the promises that they made to their spouse. That piece of paper means nothing anymore.

What happened to basic kindness, respect, and faithfulness in a relationship? It makes me sick to think that no one wants to be faithful anymore.

Then you have the people who allow cheating to go on. Cheating is a big no-no in my opinion. If you allow someone to cheat on you once, it's the same as giving them a green light to do it again and again. You just gave them a free pass. I'm not going to tell anyone what to do with their life, but if someone is cheating on you and you know about it, have some respect for yourself and get out!! If he can cheat on you, he doesn't really love you and the trust is completely lost. Cheating isn't worth it.
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