Saturday, May 6, 2017

Tips for Dating a Single Parent

Dating is difficult as it is and adding children into the mix can make it significantly more difficult. When you are a single parent dating you have other things and people to consider than just yourself. I want to talk about some of those things to help give some insight to any one who is considering dating a single mom or single dad and how to deal with certain situations that may come up that you might not think about before hand but should be prepared for.

Being a single parent is not easy, at all. You don’t have a spouse or partner there to help with the bills, housework or child rearing, you are doing it all on your own. It gets lonely and extremely stressful. Of course we love our children but we, as individuals, need that adult interaction and conversation that we can’t get from our kids. Here are a a few things to think about before jumping into dating a single parent.

Dating A Single Parent

  • Our kids come first. Well, if we are a good parent, our kids come first. This means that she may not have a lot of free time to spend with you. She may not be able to drop everything at the last minute to go on an adventure with you. This also means that plans may get cancelled due to a sick child or a sick babysitter.
  • We have been hurt. Most of of us have been hurt at some point in our lives but being a single parent, we most likely had a lot of drama even after the relationship was over. Whenever children are involved, there is almost always some kind of drama. You must be understanding and willing to take things slow. Attempting to rush or force a relationship may push the other person away.
  • We aren’t going to rush you into our children’s lives. Ok, some of you may do this but if you put your kids first, you really should be careful about who you bring into their lives. We want to make sure that you are going to stick around before letting our kids get attached to you. If you break our hearts you will also break theirs. Don’t be in a hurry to meet our kids. It’s nothing bad against you, and it's not because we don't want our children to meet you, it’s just being protective of our children.
  • We are very busy. We most likely work a full time job to support our kids, on top of housework, helping with homework, school activities, sports...etc.. Try to be understanding that we probably won’t be able to spend a lot of time with you in the beginning. It’s not that we don’t like you because we do, our lives are just so busy that there just are not enough hours in the day.

To be honest, it’s kind of rare to find someone over the age of 25 or 30 who doesn’t have children. Some people share the responsibility with the other parent which makes things a lot easier. If you are lucky enough to be able to co-parent with your ex then you really shouldn’t consider yourself a single parent because you are not doing it all on your own.

A single parent does it all on their own. They have full custody of their children and they do everything on their own, most likely without financial help. Being a parent can be one of the most difficult jobs in the world but doing it on your own doubles that responsibility.

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With all of that being said, there are also many benefits to dating a single parent. For instance, we have been down a rough road but it has taught us some tough life lessons. It has taught us what things are really important in life and what things are not. It’s taught us how to be a better partner in a relationship and not to make the same mistakes that we have made in the past. Having children matures a person (well, not all, but most of us) meaning that we are done with bullshit drama and ready to settle down and find our forever.

Dating a single mom or single dad is not easy but if you are mature enough to handle it, and patient enough to deal with the ups and downs of single parenting, it can be a wonderful experience. If done correctly you can build an amazing relationship with your partner and his or her children. Don’t pass someone up just because they have children unless you actually don’t like kids. Single dads and single moms can be superior relationship quality and you may miss out on the best thing that could ever happen to you and your love life.

Do you have any tips to add? Have you dated a single parent or are you a single parent dating? Be sure to leave us a comment and tell us your story!


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