Wednesday, March 8, 2017

My Dating Stories: Tattoo Man

I hope to write more articles about my own online dating experiences and stories. I did go on quite a few dates over time and met a lot of men - both good and bad ones. Tonight I'm going to share my online dating story about Jerry AKA Tattoo Man.

I found Jerry on POF. I came across his blog and thought he was very good looking. I don't remember what exactly I did but I sent him some kind of message or flirt, not expecting to get a response back. I have to admit, I do get surprised some times when someone I think is very sexy messages me back. My insecurities get the best of me at times and I think that someone like that wouldn't be interested in someone like me.

Jerry sent me a message back and we began talking back and forth, which lead to texting and eventually he started calling me every night before bed. He worked a lot of hours doing home remodeling full time and he was a tattoo artist part time working to open up his own tattoo shop. Tattoos are a big turn on for me and tattoo artists are even more of a turn on. I liked this guy. He worked soo many hours though, 7 am - 10 pm, some times 7 days a week, and on top of that, he had sole custody of his young daughter after her mother took off when she was born.

He would call me almost every night and we would talk about our day. We would also talk about meeting up but we knew it was going to be difficult to do because of his hours working.

One Friday afternoon I was at work when he called. I didn't answer it at first since I was at work but he left me a voicemail saying to call him as soon as I got the message. No bosses were in the office at that time so I decided to call him back real quick.

"What are you doing tonight?" he asked

"Uhh, nothing that I know of... why??" I answered

"Wanna hang out tonight?" he asked.

It caught me off guard. I wasn't expecting this at all, I was expecting to have a lazy day at home on that Friday night just lounging around in my pjs. He went on to tell me that he is getting off of work early and his sister agreed to watch his daughter for a few hours, so it was on!

I was so nervous. I kept thinking in my mind that once he sees me in person he won't like me. What if he's just trying to use me for something? What if he just wants sex?

He lived about a 30 minute drive from where I lived and he called me on the way to my town. I kept telling him I had to get off of the phone so I could get ready. I had to be perfect for this sexy tattoo man!

The most awkward part of meeting someone from online is that initial face to face meet. Despite having traded photos, walking towards each other face to face has to be the most nerve racking thing to do. You are checking them out to see if they are what you expected and you know that they are checking you out. What if he thinks that I don't look the same as my pics? I sent him multiple photos of myself so that he could see I was a bigger girl but what if I'm not what he expected or wanted??

That first meeting was awkward, as expected. I am very shy when I meet someone for the first time and it takes me awhile to get comfortable enough with them to really be myself. He was shy at first as well and the first hour or so was even more awkward. We were not talking a lot and there was a lot of silent moments that I freakin' hate so much, not knowing what to say. In my head I was freaking out thinking that he didn't like me, and Oh God, how am I going to get through this night?? What if he just wants to leave and go back home?

Then he did it. He did it!!! He reached over and grabbed a hold of my hand. I was looking at something else when he did it and when he began moving his arm towards me I thought he was attempting to grab something else.. but no, he was grabbing my hand. My heart just about jumped out of my chest. Him grabbing my hand put me at ease and let me know that he was definitely interested. We both began to open up and talk more and we hit it off great after that. He held my hand for most of the night, by the way.

We had a fun night talking and getting to know one another. We talked about his tattoos and my tattoos, and his business he is trying to start, my kids, his kids, everything.  We were just sitting there talking and all of the sudden he just grabbed me and kissed me passionately. I thought I might pass out when he did it. We made out a lot that night, and for a very long time. We did a lot of things that night, a lot of.. dirty things. 👿👿 I'm not ashamed to admit it. I liked him and we were just enjoying each other.

When we said goodbye, I went in for a hug and he wouldn't stop kissing me. Like, we literally stood there for about 10 minutes kissing. Every time I would start to walk away, he would grab me and kiss me some more.

He told me had to get gas before heading home. About 15 minutes after he left, he called me to talk on his way home. He told me what a good time he had and how he couldn't wait to see me again and I told him that I couldn't wait to see him either. We talked until I was just about asleep. I was so happy, I was floating on cloud 9. This guy likes me, ME!

I knew he had to work all weekend. I sent him a couple of messages, he apologized for not being able to talk but he was working so much. A few days later I texted him again, it was almost 10pm and he said he had just walked in the door from working all day. We talked a few days later, he was attempting to get me to come to his house for the night but it was late and I had my kids, so there was no way I could. He pouted a little bit (jokingly) and I told him maybe the following weekend I could.

I believe that was the last time I heard from him. I sent him a few texts after that with no response. I finally sent him a text saying something along the lines of, "I like you a lot and I hope you want to see me again. If you do, text me back when you can, I won't bother you any more". and that was that. No response.

Ghosted. Again. I have no idea why? He acted so in to me, got my hopes up and bam! He was gone. *sigh*.

About 6 months later, I got an invite to a Facebook page for a tattoo shop from a female I didn't know. I like tattoos of course, so I joined the group, only to realize a few days later that Jerry was the owner of this shop! The girl who sent me the request was his new girlfriend!! I don't know if she knew something and intentionally sent me a join request to let me know or if it was really just a random thing based on my likes. She randomly posts photos of him and her tattooing clients and some of the things they are doing to promote the new shop. She is the co-owner with him. She's beautiful, I mean, really, gorgeous. They announced that they are engaged about a year ago. Ugh, that one stung a little bit! I am happy that he is happy but I would love to just talk to him and ask him what happened and why he just stopped talking to me like that. Maybe it was because he found her and liked her better, who knows. I will never know. I am not one to try to cause problems and stir up any drama, I just leave it alone.

He's just another chapter in my book and that one night together was one I will always remember. That "high" of liking someone sooo much and feeling that they feel the same way about you is better than any drug. Unfortunately, just like drugs, the high doesn't last forever.

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Don't forget, I would LOVE to hear your online dating stories and experiences! If you have one that you would like to share on this blog, send me an email and let's talk about it!!

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