Wednesday, October 26, 2016

Choosing a Photo for Your Online Dating Profile

Once you register for your online dating account, you may be sitting there staring at your empty profile having no clue what to do or where to start.

Choosing Photos For Your Online Dating Profile

Photos are the number one attention grabber when it comes to internet dating. Unfortunately, as much as we like to stress that looks are not important, when it comes to online dating, photos are the first thing we see and look at, so be sure to make your profile photo a good one. Here are a few tips:

  1. The main photo is the first photo of you that others will see. Make sure that it is a good shot. Make sure that the photo is not too dark or blurry, and that you are the only one in the photo so that people know who they are supposed to be looking at. (I really hate it when someone has a main profile pic of them with 3 other people; how am I supposed to know which one you are??)
  2. Smile. Don't look like a bitch, look friendly and approachable.
  3. No duck lips. Just. don't.
  4. No gang signs (yes, people actually do this). 
  5. Don't photoshop too much. It's fine to mess with the contrast or brightness, add a pretty frame to your photo but don't use too many filters. I see a lot of photos on social media and dating sites that have been so photoshopped the person looks fake. Come on, almost no one has skin that smooth and perfect. We all want to look good in our photos but if a chat turns into a meet up, you don't want the other person to be surprised or disappointed at how differently you look in real life. 
Once you have your main profile photo chosen, add a few more pics to your dating profile, and make sure they are honest pics! Yes, I know, us females like to take photos of ourselves looking up to give the illusion that we are thinner than we really are (I do it), but like I said before, be honest. Some men (and women) are shallow and will judge us on how our bodies look. You don't really want to chat with someone like that do you? Even though it's a little scary to put yourself out there, you want them to know who and what they are getting. It could end up saving you some heartache in the end.

Imagine meeting someone for the first time and they reject you because you don't look like your photo (this has never happened to me, but I know quite a few people it has happened to). It is much easier to take rejection via chat than in person.

Another tip: Keep your kids out of your dating profile. Well, this is really just my personal choice but I do not include photos of my kids on any dating websites. That is what Facebook is for. You probably don't want a bunch of strange men looking at your kids, right?  If you begin talking to someone seriously and want to send them photos of your children privately, that is fine, but my advice is to keep their pics out of internet dating. You never know what kind of weirdos could be lurking around, and besides, you are looking for a date for you, not your kids. Yes, your children are part of the full package but that comes later once a more serious relationship is created.

This is a great start! I absolutely despise dating profiles that have no pic at all, or a pic that is so dark or blurry you can't see anything. Do not make an online dating profile with no photo at all, otherwise, you probably won't get anywhere. People want to know who it is they are talking to and physical attraction can mean a lot. An empty profile photo or a meme is not going to get your the attention you want or deserve.

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