Friday, May 18, 2018

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Friday, May 11, 2018

Top Signs of Online Dating Addiction

Online dating can be fun. It’s a great way for meeting new people and it gives you a way to sort of get to know a person a little bit before agreeing to a date. There does come a point where a person can become addicted to online dating. I guess I can kind of see how someone can become addicted to dating online, and there are certain things that you should watch for, whether yourself or a loved one.

Married people pretending to be single on dating apps

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, addiction is defined as a compulsive need for and use of a habit forming substance.

Most of us probably think of addictions being to mind-altering subjects such as drugs or alcohol, and even food. However, a person can become addicted to anything. It’s when they feel that compulsive need to do something and they can’t stop doing it. Online dating addiction is exactly that.

Dating online can be fun to start with. You find a dating app, whether it be free or paid, you put up a few photos, write a few blurbs about yourself and then get your matches, or search for someone interesting to talk to. It’s when the fun turns into something that you can’t stop thinking about that it can become an addiction. I know the thought of someone having an online dating addiction may sound silly to most of us, but it’s a real thing.

Some people are addicted to the chase. I’ve seen this more with men than women. They are addicted to finding someone attractive, chatting them up, winning them over, then when things get close to a first date, they ghost that person and move on to their next target. It makes them feel powerful and attractive to have the ability to gain the attention and interest of someone else. Once they have won, it’s time to find someone new. This only hurts people.

Signs Of Online Dating Addiction


Using Multiple Dating Apps. Don’t get me wrong, I like to test out dating apps and then pick a few that I stick with. There’s nothing wrong with that. When a person becomes addicted to online dating, they search for any and all datings apps that they can find, set up their profiles and wait for their matches. A couple is OK. Ten dating apps is not OK.

Compulsively Checking Apps. I leave most of my apps always logged in. It’s just a habit I have of not logging out of things. To be honest, these days, I only go on dating apps when I’m bored and have nothing else to do. An addicted person checks all of their apps constantly. Looking at their matches, searching for new users, changing their profiles, changing their profile photos, and sending hundreds of messages a day hoping someone will message back. It's almost like a game to them. They may ignore their job duties to go on their dating apps. They might even stay up until the wee hours of the morning to see if they have new matches instead of sleeping. When online dating takes over your life, it has turned into an addiction.

They can’t keep track of who they are talking to. They have to give each person a nickname or even write them down so that they can keep track of them all. They talk to anyone and everyone who sends them a message and they can’t keep up with all of the messages and texts that they receive. They don’t understand the concept of narrowing their matches down to those that they truly connect with or have things in common with. They want attention from everyone, no matter who they are, and will even ignore friends or family to talk to these people whom they’ve never met in person.

They turn down fun times out with friends or family. When someone is addicted to online dating, they prefer to stay home and talk to their dating app matches than go out in real life and have real fun. They become a recluse, and the only time they go out is when they go out on a date with someone they met online. Online dating takes precedence over everything else in their life. They are addicted to finding love, and they crave the attention they get from other people, even if it’s not real.

They can’t stop. This can be a big problem in relationships. Once an addicted person finds a good match and things get more serious and exclusive, they refuse to delete their online dating profile. They may have just come home from having the most amazing date ever with the most amazing person ever, ending with the most amazing kiss ever, and the first thing they do is log onto their dating profile to see if they have received any new messages from other people. Pretty much ruining their chances of having the real love that they are searching for.

Overcoming Online Dating Addiction


Recovery from online dating addiction can take time but is possible if you are ready to stop. Just like any other addiction, if you aren’t ready to stop, then nothing will work for you. With that being said, here are a few things you can do ensure that you don’t become addicted to online dating, or to help you recover from your addiction.

Are you addicted to online dating?Limit your apps. Limit your apps to only one or two apps, not ten. Pick your favorites and stick with those two and only those two. Delete all of the others.

Limit your time. Set an alarm on your phone for an hour. This is the time you may spend on a dating app. Once that hour is up, log out and don’t look at it again until the next day. If you are chatting with someone, you can make plans to chat outside of the app, using a chat app or texting.

Limit the amount of people you talk to. Three or four people at a time should be your limit. I don’t mean just basic, “hi, what’s up?” chatter, I mean chatting with someone seriously that you may consider going out on an actual in-person date with. Hell, if you’re like me, when I’m talking to one person that I really like, I don’t even bother going on apps to talk to anyone else. I give my attention to the ones that I am sincerely interested in and that I feel are a good match.

Take a break! Sometimes you just need a break! It could be a weekend or an entire week, or even a month! Take time for a dating break. Log out and don’t log back in until that break is over. Dating can be frustrating, especially when things don’t work out with someone you were really interested in, and taking a break from it all may be just the thing you need to give those emotions a break.

Dating shouldn’t feel like work. When someone is addicted to finding love, they can easily become addicted to online dating. It’s easy because it’s right there at your fingertips on your apps, and you don’t have to meet face to face if you don’t want to. The signs of online dating addiction are not good ways to find your true love. You are going to put too much stress on yourself, and it’s not fair to those that you are talking to when you are talking to 20 other people at the same time. Take some time for yourself to find out what it is that you really want.

If you believe that you are addicted to online dating, read through this list of ways to overcome your dating addiction and start off by doing one thing. Then move on to doing two things in the list, and so on, and so on, until you feel that you have control again. Get out into the real world and enjoy time with others who enjoy time with you instead of stressing about finding that one true love. I do believe that things happen when they are supposed to happen. You may miss the opportunity when you are rushing and pushing trying to find it and/or hurt people in the process.

Do you know someone who is addicted to online dating? How do you know they are addicted? Tell us in the comments!

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Friday, May 4, 2018

Parents: Stop Raising Your Kids To Be Bullies!

My high school days were Hell. I remember them clearly. My mother would drop me off in front of the school, and I would walk down the long hallway to get to the lockers as fast as I could with my head down, hoping, praying that he wasn’t there. He was that kid, the bully who would yell out, “Hey baby!” along with some other unsavory words like, “Why don’t you come sit with me?”. Sometimes he would even get up, walk over to me and put his arm around me when he said it. No, he wasn’t flirting, he was making fun of me for being fat. He must have learned it from somewhere, and this is why people need to start teaching their kids not to be bullies.
Bullying text with words
I was always the fat girl who was bigger than everyone else. I’d walk down the hallway and someone would make a snide sarcastic comment to me while their friends watched and laughed. This killed my self-esteem. Bullying chips away at your self-esteem and changes how you see yourself.

It got to the point where I dreaded going to school. I would try to use every excuse possible not to go. I felt nervous and sick to my stomach every morning. When I did go, all I wanted to do was get there as close to the bell ringing as possible so that I could go straight to class instead of being made to stand in the hallway where the bullies gathered with their minions. Bullying in schools is, unfortunately, an everyday occurrence and can make life miserable for the kids who are on the receiving end of it.

In 9th grade, Algebra was my last class of the day. This class had three older boys in it who had failed miserably in the years before and were trying once again. I was their target in the classroom. They would wait for me to walk into the room. Sometimes they would even wait in the hallway for me, and then follow closely behind me while making lewd comments to me. They made fun of me every chance they got, even when other kids told them to just shut up. The teacher never did anything. She may have told them to stop here and there, but she never really did anything. I think she was scared of them, too. Needless to say, I don’t think they even graduated, but they got their kicks out of bullying me.

Back then, I didn’t have the confidence to stand up to these bullies like I would now. I would simply walk as fast as I possibly could in order to get to my next class and try my best to ignore them and act like they didn’t bother me, when deep inside, I felt like I was being torn apart.

Now that I’m a parent, I’ve realized that bullying stems from how a person is raised. Many kids watch their parents be bullies, so they think it’s ok to make fun of others. Or maybe their parents were just too damned lazy to teach them how to be respectful and decent human beings? Many of these childhood bullies will grow into adult bullies and will spend their lives being a douchebag bully.

I taught my children from a young age that bullying is not tolerated. I showed them that being different is perfectly fine. It’s better to stand out than to blend in, and just because someone may look or act differently, it doesn’t give anyone the right to make fun of them or belittle them. I taught them to treat everyone the way that they would want to be treated.

No, my kids aren’t perfect, but now that they are teenagers, they have been known to stand up to bullies and for the kids who are too scared to stand up for themselves. Luckily, our school stands behind their no tolerance policy when it comes to bullying, but a lot of schools don’t. The may preach it, but they don’t follow through with it, and bullying is the norm in their schools.

Parents teach your kids not to be bullies

PARENTS

  • Teach your kids that it’s ok to be different. Who cares if someone has red hair or wears big glasses. So what?
  • Teach them what respect is and how to show respect to their fellow classmates.
  • Teach them how bullying makes other people feel.
  • Teach them about kindness, and to be accepting of everyone despite their weight, height, or financial class.
  • Teach your kids how to not to be little assholes who are going to grow up into big assholes. 


If your kid is a bully, it’s a reflection of you. You raised them and you taught them what kind of behavior is appropriate. Bullying is a big problem in schools these days, and it can be extremely damaging.

As an adult, I struggle with my confidence and self-esteem daily. I look in the mirror and see a disgusting creature who isn’t deserving of love. I walk into a room of strangers and almost expect people to stare and laugh. If I hear people laughing, I instantly assume that they are laughing at me. Bullying killed my self-esteem and has made me feel worthless for the majority of my life even after all of these years. Those words and actions can stick in someone’s head forever.

People who bully others most likely lack their own confidence and self-esteem causing them to put others down in order to make themselves feel better. Lift your children up so that they don’t need to put others down. Teach them how to be good human beings. No one else is going to do it for you. Schools try to teach anti-bullying, but they can only do so much, and it’s not their responsibility to raise your kid to be a good person.

Stopping bullying starts at home. As a parent, you are the one who molds your children into what they become. If they are nasty little bullies who like to belittle others, that says a lot about you as a parent. You didn’t do a good job, but it’s not too late to teach them better ways. Do it now before they turn into adult bullies who spend the rest of their life bullying others. No one likes a bully, except for other bullies. Typically, bullies raise bullies.

Have you been bullied? Have you raised a bully?

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